Unhelpful Thinking

We are constantly thinking too much: Psychologists estimate that we have sixty thousand thoughts each day. 75%-95% of which are repetitive and unhelpful. Not knowing the content of our own mind, we are literally at its mercy and unconsciously follow its instruction to the letter. The habit of excessive thought and more importantly the lack of awareness surrounding it is the result of the inherited human mind. Much cognitive detail and emotional framing is created through our experiences from the past, influences from societal, educational and social environments and is kept alive through repetition.

Thinking is seen as good. Not thinking is seen in the western world as lazy or dull. We often hear about the “brilliant thinkers” who make profound discoveries or realisations. Truth be told, eureka moments or creative insights are not made during thinking, but during a cessation of thought. Our education system teaches us how to think. Through school and university, the mind is developed and molded into a superb analytical tool. Thinking is seen as the solution to all of life problems. If we have an issue, we feel that the more we think about it- the greater the chances of it being solved. Thinking became a learned habit for us developed over time.

If you feel that it is good to think a lot, take a look at the stress of people who are in the constant grip and torture of their minds. Often we pass by people on the street who are so tormented that they openly voice the content of their mind. They are pressed down with thought.

We are similar, except that we don’t talk out loud. Instead, we have internal mental chatter. We think about the same thing day in and day out with little resolve or reduction in thinking. Watch your thoughts and you will be left in no doubt about this chatter.

Thinking for practical purposes is fine as it serves a purpose. However, most of our thinking is not for practical purposes. Most thinking is spent on repetitive worry and anxiety. If you were able to eliminate your thought activity by 50%, you would be very happy indeed. If you were able to eliminate 95% of all 60,000 thoughts, you would live a life of bliss. Thinking makes you unhappy. Less thought activity makes you happy.

Happiness Index

Lots of thoughts = unhappiness

Few thoughts = happiness

If you don’t believe this, ask yourself what is causing the unhappiness in the first place? Forget about positive thoughts, they work when things are going well. They don’t work when you are down in the dumps.

Control your mind or allow your mind to control you.

Human thinking began tens of thousands of years ago. It is the single most important function that differentiates our abilities from animals.

We need to decide what choices to take, determine a strategy, plan an event, deal with a specific situation. You might want to go to the shop- you think about what foods are not in the cupboard. You organise flights- you think about best dates, price and destination. You write an email- you think about what you need to say. You go to petrol pumps to fill your car- you decide on what pump, how much money to spend. You contact a supplier- you think about what you need, what quantities, what price and when it will be delivered. Somebody might have overcharged you- you decide on what you are going to say and you say it to them. Thinking when used in this instance for practical purposes is fine. It is necessary and is productive.

You are walking in a beautiful quiet park and instead of experiencing the sun of the back of your head, the beautiful sight of flowers around you, the wonderful sounds of children at play- your attention is wrapped up complaining about your neighbour who blocked your driveway yesterday, or your boss who was unhappy with your work, or that the mortgage needs to be paid at the end of the month. This thinking is torture. It does nothing to help the situation. It does nothing to help you. You miss out on the wonders that life has to offer.

Quietening The Mind

Everybody, regardless of the extent to which thoughts have taken them over have the capacity to still and take back control of their mind. A still mind is just covered up with mental noise and anything that helps to de-clutter the mind will allow the stillness to resurface.

Learning how to do this is very simple, it involves breathing well and balancing your views. Your choice is to keep running the nonsense through your head and feel miserable or become aware of this and allow the programs to dissolve and thoughts to subside. A life free of chatter is a life that is lived freely. To learn some techniques to manage your thoughts, read our introduction.

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